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Manipulation Tactics

The 7 Most Deceptive Narc-Sadistic Manipulation Tactics Exposed

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Jan 9, 2018 | 11 Comments

If you have ever fallen for a narcissist or psychopath and have spun your wheels combing through every memory, conversation, email and text message searching for clues of where things went wrong, what was real and what was fake, and any signs you may have missed along...

An Inside Look Into Emotional Manipulation

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 30, 2017 | 0 Comments

If you've entered into a new relationship, and you suddenly begin to feel less good about yourself and start to develop any of the following symptoms: depression, anxiety, feelings of guilt, frustration, or your self-confidence diminishes, you might be in a...

The 8 Most Common Narc-Sadistic Conversation Control Tactics.

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Jan 2, 2017 | 17 Comments

Do you often engage in conversations with your narcissist that leave you feeling like you were talking to a brick wall --or worse, maybe leave you feeling like banging your head against a brick wall? Perhaps, it has even crossed your mind that you would have been...

The 11 Most Common Narcissistic Hoovering Tactics

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 27, 2016 | 16 Comments

The narcissist may really miss you, but not for the reasons you would want them to. They may miss what you gave them –free room and board, adulation, companionship, sex, or whatever their needs are. They may hoover you because they need a third party (you) to triangulate and manipulate their new victim with. They may just be filling their reserve tanks in preparation for periods of famine, or infidelity, and are surveying the availability of potential resources. Or, they may be in need of a quick ego boost and are looking to siphon some supply wherever they can get it the fastest, and with the least amount of effort.

The Reasons Why Narcissistic Parents Designate A Scapegoat & A Golden Child

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 20, 2016 | 1 Comment

Narcissistic parents, who appear to be great parents, are the worst of all. These toxic parents are the ones who you would never suspect. They could be active members of the PTA. They may be regular church goers, the beloved community leaders, or the ones who...

Why Most Narcissists Devalue And Discard Their Partners

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Sep 28, 2015 | 152 Comments

Why do narcissists pick the worst possible times to devalue and discard their partners and what motivate them to hurt someone they professed to love?

Happily Never After: Decoding Narcissistic Devaluation

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Jun 10, 2015 | 40 Comments

Slowly, he will begin to subtly and covertly devalue you. Where you once could do no wrong, fault will be found. The devaluation may take various forms, including nit-picking, gas-lighting, withholding physical intimacy, blaming you for everything, needing to always be “right,” projecting his feelings on to you, playing the victim, triangulation, constant criticisms of minor and trivial things disguised in form of just “trying to be helpful” and domineering behaviors that started small in the beginning, but eventually permeated until every aspect of your life is under his control.

The 4 Most Common Narc-Sadistic Triangulation Tactics

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | May 13, 2015 | 84 Comments

Triangulation is one of the favorite manipulation tools used by narcissists and sociopaths which is why we need to learn to identify the early warning signs and red flags when interacting with people who display narcissistic and toxic behaviors.