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Healing & Recovery

10 New Year’s Resolutions For Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 30, 2017 | 0 Comments

For many of us, the New Year signals a fresh start, renewal and the start of a new chapter. It's a special time because it brings the hope of new beginnings and possibilities. On New Year's Day, after the celebrations end and the champagne toasts are over, many of...

How To Deal With A Narcissist’s Smear Campaign

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 22, 2017 | 1 Comment

If you've been the target of a narcissist's smear campaign, you know it's one of the most devastatingly effective, and vicious attacks you can find yourself on the receiving end of. The narcissist uses the smear campaign for three main reasons: To distract people's...

Caring For Your Brain After Narcissistic Abuse

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 10, 2017 | 5 Comments

Unfortunately, for most survivors of narcissistic abuse, ending an emotionally abusive relationship and going no contact doesn't immediately put an end to or erase the damage left behind from the trauma of being in a toxic relationship. We anticipate having to deal...

What You Need To Know About Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Sep 9, 2016 | 3 Comments

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, recovery is a slow, frustrating, and tedious process. The frequent complaints of pain and emotional distress are often dismissed by loved ones, and even mental health professionals as malingering, and a lack of desire to heal...

A Simple Remedy For Feeling Better After Narcissistic Abuse

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Aug 31, 2016 | 9 Comments

The common remedies for a broken heart fall short because they don’t address the broken spirit, mind-bending confusion, cognitive dissonance, unanswered questions, lack of closure and the callous post-discard behavior characteristic of break ups with narcissists.

What if I told you it’s okay not to be okay?

Getting Over A Relationship With A Narcissist

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 19, 2015 | 20 Comments

It probably doesn’t make much sense to you why you’re struggling so hard to move on from someone whose rap sheet of wrongdoings toward you is a mile long. It should be easy to let go of someone who has caused you so much pain… right? Well, not really when you understand the interplay of factors that contribute to the concept of cognitive dissonance.

The Hidden Dangers of Toxic Relationships

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Dec 14, 2015 | 14 Comments

It's no secret that today's society has grown increasingly more health conscious than ever before. Healthier alternatives are springing up in the most unexpected places --like fast food restaurants-- of all things. And caloric counts displayed next to menu items has...

Tips & Tricks To Move On After Narcissistic Abuse

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Jul 2, 2015 | 89 Comments

Healing and moving on after narcissistic abuse requires immense inner strength. Find out more tips & tricks to recover from narcissistic abuse.

How To Permanently Detach From A Narcissist

by Bree Bonchay, LCSW | Jun 22, 2015 | 185 Comments

The problem is with the passage of time, people develop relationship amnesia and just around the time relationship amnesia begins to set in, the narcissist, like a tornado will regenerate and strike again. No contact is good but going Stover is even better. No that wasn’t a typo. Stover is a term a friend of mine coined that means the relationship is “So Totally OVER” or Stover. Going Stover is a lot like going no contact only on Red Bull, and best of all it protects against dreaded relationship amnesia.